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Jean Alferes
Born in Massachusetts
62 years
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In life we loved you dearly, in death we do the same. It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone. For part of us went with you, the day God called you home. You left us beautiful memories your love is still our guide and though we cannot see you, you are always at our side. Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same. But as God calls us one by one the chain will link again.


 


 

Jean (Frazer) Alferes, 62 years - 1 month - 22 days, of Marion, entered into rest Friday, Feburary 23, 2007 in St. Luke's Hospital, New Bedford after a long courageous battle with cancer.

Jean worked at Healthtrax Fitness & Wellness Center in Dartmoth until her illness. She lived most of her life in Fairhaven and lived in New Bedford before relocating to Marion a year and a half ago.

She was devoted to her family and enjoyed spending her time with them. She also enjoyed shopping, animals, traveling to Bermuda, going to the beach, and especially soft ice cream.

She is survived by a son, Jerome Alferes and his wife Christy and their children, Marshall, Marilyn and Magnus of Fairhaven; two daughters, Julie Eadie and her husband Chris and their children, Jayme, Brad and Noah of Dartmouth, and Jane Seiders and her husband Christopher and their children, Jayson, Mark and Chelsea of Marion; she is also survived by several brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews.

 

 


  taken:Feb. 17, 2007

 Tuesday, Feburary 13, 2007, Ma woke me at 5:30a.m. with severe stomach pain that she had since mid-night, I rushed her to the hospital (in hope that it was only the stomach bug that had been going around) multipual test and a few hours later the doctors informed us that it was a small intestinal blockage with a mass and recommended transporting her to Boston for surgery. After 4+ years of battling against this horrible disease, numorous surgeries, radiation and repeated chemo treatment, she had had more than enough. She was no longer willing, for how much time would it buy her. It was now about quality of life. We all agreed and supported her desicions fully.

Day after day I went and sat by my mother's side, as the doctor's kept running test and trying to treat her condition non-surgical. On Monday, Febuary 19th, Chris and I stopped in for a short visit, but to our surprise we could not find her, she was off taking a walk, she was so full of life with her bright dimple smile, joking, laughing and poking fun. So when that call came early the next morning I was not perpared for what the doctor had to say, it was time to put orders into place, she was disoriented and did not even know her own name. How could this be? What could have happened over night? I called my siblings to meet me at the hospital, so that we could come to terms with what was being told to us, we needed to make an educated decision. When we walked into her room her face light up and she knew each one of us, just for a breif moment. She kept asking for her shoes, we assured her that they were under the bed, but she kept saying that "their not on my feet". She was in excuciating pain due to an embolism in her right leg, and her organs beginning to shut down. It was so heart wrenching to see my mother, this strong-willed women to be so weak and frail, at the mercy of death.

Never once did I think up to this point that I would never bring her home again! The angiush that engulfed me was to much to bare, I wanted, I needed to due more! Anything to make her life better, she suffered so much, it was so damn unfair! How do we tell her grandkids, when we couldn't even face it our selves! The next few days seem as if they were eternity, the waiting and not knowing. Did she know we were with her, she seemed to aknowledge us in little facial movements as if she did. Or was that wishful thinking. Some how I need answers, I feel lost and broken. How do I learn to live all over again, I don't know how to live without my mother. She was my best friend, she was my every day life. Nothing you do can prepare you for this moment in your life when you loose your mother, the reason of your existence. It was her love and guidence that has transformed me into the women that I am today. She had no role model for herself, she raised us kids with what she felt was best and she was the most amazing person I have ever known. Gentle in nature, and firm on morals, she taught me to appreciate all things in life, as little as they may have seemed. I miss her with every ounce of my being. I know she will always be with me, if only for the love and memories in my heart. I am not sure what it is that I believe of the afterlife. I question daily on the agony of life and it's meaning and what becomes of you at death. The insecurity of my existence has only been re-assured by my mother's death.

 


 

                            I

                    Miss        

                      You  

     If i can't have you, i will steal you                 

              into my dreams

        there i can see you..

     there i can feel you.......

 there i will have you for if a moment

         inside my aching heart

loving you forever, Jane

 


 

  

 

 

Heavens Hues ©Patrick J. Reynolds
 
 

"Once in every life there comes a time when even the watchers can do nothing but absorb the pain felt by loved ones, as it

is simply too great

to withstand alone.

She bears the

weight that lays

heavy as the

tears of an angel
heal the wounds of the torn and broken ones left behind so they may one day  see light over the darkness."

 

 


                

In tears I saw you sinking, 
I watched you fade away.
My heart was surely broken,
You fought so hard to stay.
But when I saw you sleeping,
So peacefully free from pain. 
I could not wish you back
To suffer that again.

With every passing moment,

I miss you more than today

But forever in my heart you will stay.

_______________________________________________________________


 

       


Latest Memories
Jane
WHEN YOU THOUGHT I WASN'T LOOKING
 


When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life. 

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I
learned that we all have to help take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you take care of our house
and our laundry and our car, and I learned
two things: to appreciate the things we are given,and to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw tears
in your eyes,
and I learned that sometimes things
hurt, but it's all right to cry.
 
When you thought I wasn’t looking I felt your strong hug, and I learned to show compassion
when someone is suffering.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you
laugh and smile and sing and dance,
and I learned that life can be a joyful journey.

When you thought I wasn't looking I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive
and happy person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking I looked at you and
thought, ‘Thanks for all the things I saw when
you thought I wasn't looking.' 


Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply.
Speak kindly.
Jane

Song Lyrics Christy shared with Julie & I

A dedication to our beautiful mother, loved forever, missed dearly

Happy Birthday

 

Mamma
You gave life to me
Turned a baby into a lady

And mamma
All you had to offer
Was the promise of a lifetime of love

Now I know
There is no other
Love like a mother's love for her child

And I know
A love so complete
Someday must leave
Must say goodbye

Goodbye's the saddest word I'll ever hear
Goodbye's the last time I will hold you near
Someday you'll say that word and I will cry
It'll break my heart to hear you say goodbye

Mamma
You gave love to me
Turned a young one into a woman

And mamma
All I ever needed
Was a guarantee of you loving me

'Cause I know
There is no other
Love like a mother's love for her child

And it hurts so
That something so strong
Someday will be gone, must say goodbye

Goodbye's the saddest word I'll ever hear
Goodbye's the last time I will hold you near
Someday you'll say that word and I will cry
It'll break my heart to hear you say goodbye

But the love you give will always live
You'll always be there every time I fall
You offered me the greatest love of all
You take my weakness and you make me strong
And I will always love you 'till forever comes

And when you need me
I'll be there for you always
I'll be there your whole life through
I'll be there this I promise you, mamma

I'll be your beacon through the darkest nights
I'll be the wings that guide your broken flight
I'll be your shelter through the raging storm
And I will love you 'till forever comes

Goodbye's the saddest word I'll ever hear
Goodbye's the last time I will hold you near
Someday you'll say that word and I will cry
It'll break my heart to hear you say goodbye

'Till we meet again...
Until then...
Love,
Christy
Chelsea
grammy. its towards the end of august, and the suns starting to get further away, the nights are starting to get chilly. winters coming and im once again preparing myself to go through the holidays with out you. can you believe i didnt get any sexy under wear last year. no one new us kids better than you. victoria's getting so big and im her godmother and jaysons her godfather. grammy i wish i could just have you back. i sang wind beneath my wings to you the other day i dont no ifyou heard me. i want to bear hug you so bad. i always have your anklet and ring on. i miss you. i think im going to watch beaches today, promise to watch it with me. i no this isnt really a memory but i want to talk to you and the candles dont give me enough room to say all the things i need to. i miss you beautiful, i wish you were here just for ne more day, thats all i need just one day. a day filled with giggles, and nail polish. i just want to hear you say my name the way you used to "cheltsea" you always through in that "t" even though it wasnt there. everyone misses you grammy, i no you know this. meme painted a portrait f you that captures that twinkle in your eye.<3 i miss you
jane

Ma,

Chelsea's softball season is apond us & watching the games without you is so difficult. These are some of the special moments that we shared. The everlasting strong presence of you in the kids life makes it bareable without you. How I so miss you! Forever in my heart! Your memories are all I've got!

A snow friend for you!

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Latest Condolences
C. Borurguet My deepest condolence February 23, 2017
My condolences, as feelings of pain and bitterness become unbearable. It is my desire to convey a comforting thought based on the Holy Scriptures
          
  John 5:28 "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out."
 
 
This passage speaks of the resurrection of our loved ones. It is not God's plan to see us suffer and die, so He extends the following invitation to us: "Come near to God and He will draw near to you" (James 4:8)
 
Please go to the following link to obtain more information regarding the Hope expressed in this passage and again we are sorry for your loss.
 
 http://www.jw.org
Jane missing you! May 5, 2008

Mother

There is but one and only one whose love will fail you never.

One who lives from sun to sun with constant fond endeavor.

There is but one and only one on earth there is no other.

In Heaven a noble work was done when God gave man a Mother

Ma, I miss you! forever in my heart, Jane September 20, 2007
If I could only find the words to express the grief inside my heart

 



Anguish Bleakness Brokenheart
Bummer Cheerlessness Dejection
Depression Despondency Disconsolateness
Dispiritedness Distress Dolefulness Dolor
Downcastness Dysphoria Forlornness
Funk Gloominess Grief Grieving
Heartache Heartbreak Hopelessness
Letdown Listlessness Melancholy
Misery Moodiness Mournfulness
Mourning Poignancy Sorrow
Tribulation Unhappiness Woe

never forgotten always missed May 15, 2007

Ma, thinking of you May 15, 2007

We thought of you with love today.
But that is nothing new.
We thought about you yesterday.
And days before that too.
We think of you in silence.
We often speak your name.
Now all we have is memories.
And your picture in a frame.
Your memory is our keepsake.
With which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping.
We have you in our heart..

Quick Gallery
Grammy and Jayson - whos tan is darker (road trip to N.C.) Grammy and Chelsea grammy, Noah and Brad Grammy and Marshall Grammy, Mark and Jayson grammys special shirt pitch anyone ma and chris bermuda cruise chelsea loves her graminator Its MY birthday grandpa bill and grammy jayson, jayme, grammy holding mark another day in Boston grammy and jayson (bermuda 93)