Jean (Frazer) Alferes, 62 years - 1 month - 22 days, of Marion, entered into rest Friday, Feburary 23, 2007 in St. Luke's Hospital, New Bedford after a long courageous battle with cancer.
Jean worked at Healthtrax Fitness & Wellness Center in Dartmoth until her illness. She lived most of her life in Fairhaven and lived in New Bedford before relocating to Marion a year and a half ago.
She was devoted to her family and enjoyed spending her time with them. She also enjoyed shopping, animals, traveling to Bermuda, going to the beach, and especially soft ice cream.
She is survived by a son, Jerome Alferes and his wife Christy and their children, Marshall, Marilyn and Magnus of Fairhaven; two daughters, Julie Eadie and her husband Chris and their children, Jayme, Brad and Noah of Dartmouth, and Jane Seiders and her husband Christopher and their children, Jayson, Mark and Chelsea of Marion; she is also survived by several brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews.
taken:Feb. 17, 2007
Tuesday, Feburary 13, 2007, Ma woke me at 5:30a.m. with severe stomach pain that she had since mid-night, I rushed her to the hospital (in hope that it was only the stomach bug that had been going around) multipual test and a few hours later the doctors informed us that it was a small intestinal blockage with a mass and recommended transporting her to Boston for surgery. After 4+ years of battling against this horrible disease, numorous surgeries, radiation and repeated chemo treatment, she had had more than enough. She was no longer willing, for how much time would it buy her. It was now about quality of life. We all agreed and supported her desicions fully.
Day after day I went and sat by my mother's side, as the doctor's kept running test and trying to treat her condition non-surgical. On Monday, Febuary 19th, Chris and I stopped in for a short visit, but to our surprise we could not find her, she was off taking a walk, she was so full of life with her bright dimple smile, joking, laughing and poking fun. So when that call came early the next morning I was not perpared for what the doctor had to say, it was time to put orders into place, she was disoriented and did not even know her own name. How could this be? What could have happened over night? I called my siblings to meet me at the hospital, so that we could come to terms with what was being told to us, we needed to make an educated decision. When we walked into her room her face light up and she knew each one of us, just for a breif moment. She kept asking for her shoes, we assured her that they were under the bed, but she kept saying that "their not on my feet". She was in excuciating pain due to an embolism in her right leg, and her organs beginning to shut down. It was so heart wrenching to see my mother, this strong-willed women to be so weak and frail, at the mercy of death.
Never once did I think up to this point that I would never bring her home again! The angiush that engulfed me was to much to bare, I wanted, I needed to due more! Anything to make her life better, she suffered so much, it was so damn unfair! How do we tell her grandkids, when we couldn't even face it our selves! The next few days seem as if they were eternity, the waiting and not knowing. Did she know we were with her, she seemed to aknowledge us in little facial movements as if she did. Or was that wishful thinking. Some how I need answers, I feel lost and broken. How do I learn to live all over again, I don't know how to live without my mother. She was my best friend, she was my every day life. Nothing you do can prepare you for this moment in your life when you loose your mother, the reason of your existence. It was her love and guidence that has transformed me into the women that I am today. She had no role model for herself, she raised us kids with what she felt was best and she was the most amazing person I have ever known. Gentle in nature, and firm on morals, she taught me to appreciate all things in life, as little as they may have seemed. I miss her with every ounce of my being. I know she will always be with me, if only for the love and memories in my heart. I am not sure what it is that I believe of the afterlife. I question daily on the agony of life and it's meaning and what becomes of you at death. The insecurity of my existence has only been re-assured by my mother's death.
I
Miss
You
If i can't have you, i will steal you
into my dreams
there i can see you..
there i can feel you.......
there i will have you for if a moment
inside my aching heart
loving you forever, Jane
In tears I saw you sinking,
I watched you fade away.
My heart was surely broken,
You fought so hard to stay.
But when I saw you sleeping,
So peacefully free from pain.
I could not wish you back
To suffer that again.
With every passing moment,
I miss you more than today
But forever in my heart you will stay.
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Jane |
Jane |
Song Lyrics Christy shared with Julie & I
A dedication to our beautiful mother, loved forever, missed dearly
Happy Birthday
Chelsea |
jane |
Ma,
Chelsea's softball season is apond us & watching the games without you is so difficult. These are some of the special moments that we shared. The everlasting strong presence of you in the kids life makes it bareable without you. How I so miss you! Forever in my heart! Your memories are all I've got!
A snow friend for you! |
C. Borurguet | My deepest condolence | February 23, 2017 |
Jane | missing you! | May 5, 2008 |
Mother
There is but one and only one whose love will fail you never.
One who lives from sun to sun with constant fond endeavor.
There is but one and only one on earth there is no other.
In Heaven a noble work was done when God gave man a Mother
Ma, I miss you! | forever in my heart, Jane | September 20, 2007 |
Anguish Bleakness Brokenheart
Bummer Cheerlessness Dejection
Depression Despondency Disconsolateness
Dispiritedness Distress Dolefulness Dolor
Downcastness Dysphoria Forlornness
Funk Gloominess Grief Grieving
Heartache Heartbreak Hopelessness
Letdown Listlessness Melancholy
Misery Moodiness Mournfulness
Mourning Poignancy Sorrow
Tribulation Unhappiness Woe
never forgotten | always missed | May 15, 2007 |
Ma, | thinking of you | May 15, 2007 |
We thought of you with love today.
But that is nothing new.
We thought about you yesterday.
And days before that too.
We think of you in silence.
We often speak your name.
Now all we have is memories.
And your picture in a frame.
Your memory is our keepsake.
With which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping.
We have you in our heart..